18 Sep Compare yourself in two different contexts it could be yourself as a student, within your family, employee, employer, friend, etc. And even within those, you may feel like a differ
•Compare yourself in two different contexts it could be yourself as a student, within your family, employee, employer, friend, etc.
•And even within those, you may feel like a different SELF in under the same label (i.e. while a student in one class I am this, while a student in another class I am this…same with individual friends or family members…)
1.List how YOU FEEL you communicate with them. Include:
• -How you feel physically, how you talk or listen, how you feel anxiety-wise, what you consider a ‘successful’ exchange in the context, most importantly: HOW YOU FEEL DIFFERENT and HOW YOU FEEL YOURSELF ADAPTING to make it work.
Forms of Communication
Intrapersonal
Interpersonal
Small Group
Public Speaking
Mass
Intrapersonal
Encoded Communication with oneself.
Thinking in words.
Telling oneself things.
Keeping a diary.
Rehearsing things in your mind.
Interpersonal
Communication between two people in the contact of a relationship.
Friendships
Customer/Client
Romantic
Familial
What makes a good speaker?
Being Heard
Being understood
Being effective
Adjusting your communication based upon the situation/context
Characteristics of Good Communicators
Self aware
Adaptable
Empathetic
Cognitively complex
Ethical
Self – Awareness
In the “transaction model” of communication, (people as both senders and receivers of messages) = we are “3 people” in every exchange:
Whom we think we are really being (or trying to be)
Whom we think the other person thinks we are (based on our own identity, and feedback)
Whom the other person actually perceives us to be (this we can’t control)
In every exchange we are numerous (and different) people.
One way to control/manipulate how we communicate: adaptability
We have different selves with family, with friends, with co workers.
We want to come across as:
Accomplished and professional
Stable and responsible
Etc.
Being SELF AWARE of how I feel (or whom I feel like) in these different contexts helps me avoid the obstacles created by these confusions of identity – and/or manipulate them (and overcome them) for the benefits. Better AWARENESS makes for better ADAPTATION
Consider who you are in 2 different group settings. How do you change or ADAPT and PLAY a DIFFERENT PART to achieve your goals.
Every audience has different:
Interests
Culture
Age
Religion
Educational level
Customs
lingo
A deliberate COGNITIVE COMPLEXITY alerts you to the differences in your audience, so that you can adjust strategies for what SELF you will be in that context.
What adaptations do you make?
Examples: body language, voice, references, greetings, politics
Written Selves Assignment
Compare yourself in two different contexts it could be yourself as a student, within your family, employee, employer, friend, etc.
And even within those, you may feel like a different SELF in under the same label (i.e. while a student in one class I am this, while a student in another class I am this…same with individual friends or family members…)
List how YOU FEEL you communicate with them. Include:
-How you feel physically, how you talk or listen, how you feel anxiety-wise, what you consider a ‘successful’ exchange in the context, most importantly: HOW YOU FEEL DIFFERENT and HOW YOU FEEL YOURSELF ADAPTING to make it work.
