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Thomas Francis University • Course G110 • Segment 3

HOW TO BE A MASTER COMMUNICATOR

—Douglas R. Kelley, PhD, CH, CSL

Upon Completion of this Segment, You Will Know:

• A comprehensive overview of communication techniques.

The basic building block of good communications is the feeling

that every human being is unique and of value. —Unknown

n this course, we have covered a number of valuable communication techniques with a focus on

practical and public presentation skills. The techniques presented so far have focused more on

the most important skills associated with effective communication, but haven’t included a num-

ber of additional techniques that also play a role in good communication. Concepts such as how to

start a conversation, how to end a conversation, good telephone conversation techniques, and others

will help round out your ability as an effective communicator.

In this vein, the eBook, How to Be a Master Communicator, is included on the Course Page for

your review and study. It will provide additional sub-points that support the main concepts discussed

in previous segments. As you study this 43 page eBook, look for new and additional ideas that you can

apply in your own life.

METAPHYSICS AND COMMUNICATION

Perhaps you are wondering what communication skills have to do with a metaphysical degree, and

the answer is everything and on a variety of levels. Regardless of whether your mission is to become

a minister, counselor, coach, healer, hypnotist, ufologist, paranormal investigator, or anything else,

you will be dealing with people (and perhaps others). Your effectiveness as a communicator will have

a direct bearing on your success in your chosen field.

One type of communication we’ve discussed and will continue to discuss is the communication you

have with yourself, in other words, self-talk. This kind of communication involves the mental thought-

I

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words that go through your mind constantly. Whether your internal dialogue is positive and empow-

ering or not will also have a direct impact on your success in life.

Another type of communication is that with your Higher Self in the form of meditation. We’ve

provided suggested meditations and self-hypnosis scripts for you to use in connecting with your Higher

Self. By diligently practicing meditation, you expand your consciousness and awareness, and this leads

to greater enlightenment. Meditating also allows you to “listen” to your innermost thoughts and di-

rection. This is your Higher Self attempting to communicate with your conscious mind. Meditation,

visualization, and focus is explored in depth in Course MHs.M6 of the Doctoral Degree Program.

Metaphysics is about existence and consciousness. Communication is an indispensable aspect of

both. We’ve discussed verbal and non-verbal communication in the form of body language, but an-

other type of non-verbal communication also exists that involves consciousness on a higher level. We

often refer to this type of communication with words like psychic, ESP, and telepathy. This form of

communication allows our minds to “go out into the cosmos,” so to speak, and get information that

is not otherwise available to us. Psychic communication and related matters are discussed at length

in Course G240 including how to develop your psychic ability.

As Master Communicators, capable metaphysicians, and spiritual entities, we must be as proficient

as possible in all aspects of communication, whether that communication is with people or anyone

else. As with the physical world, so it is with the spirit world: Poor communication will strain a

relationship, and lack of communication will kill it. Strive to practice effective communication skills

in all aspects of your life and your life’s work.

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Thomas Francis University • Course G110 • Segment 2

PUBLIC SPEAKING AND PRESENTATIONS

—Douglas R. Kelley, PhD, CH, CSL

Updated: August 17, 2017

Upon Completion of this Segment, You Will Know:

• How to be less nervous and more effective when giving a speech.

• How to use PowerPoint effectively in presentations.

• Public speaking mini-course

The human brain starts working the moment you are born and never stops until you stand up to speak in public.

— George Jessel

remember the first time I ever gave a public presentation. It was way back in 1966, I was seven

years old, and my knees were literally knocking together as I gave my six-minute speech. In my

twenties, I began to speak more often, but I still remember the nerves giving me trouble. Of

course, the more I spoke publicly, the easier it became. As I got into my thirties, I was speaking

even more, and on three occasions, the audiences numbered more than 3,000 people, with one au-

dience around 5,000. I wasn’t accustomed to such large groups, so I had yet more opportunities for

getting weak in the knees.

Just about every person has to get up in front of a group at one time or another. If you are like

most people, you would rather burn in hell than stand up in front of a group and speak. It can even

be worse if you are speaking before your peers or high-profile organizational officers or “big-wigs.”

So, what can you do if you have to give a presentation and are dreading it? Let me share some

techniques from my experience that I have found beneficial. The following is not meant to be an

exhaustive discussion of public speaking techniques, for you can get a good book for that (or join

Toastmasters). Moreover, it would be very difficult to effectively teach public speaking in an online

format. The following points are just a few things I do to make my presentations run smoother.

To begin, it is obviously very important to prepare and practice your presentation thoroughly. It

has been said that a good presentation is one that is practiced over and over. While I agree with this

in principle, I also think you can practice a presentation so much that it becomes canned. Canned is

not good.

After you have prepared and practiced, remember the following points to help with the nerves

and to make your presentation memorable:

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1. Be You. Be Passionate. Whether speaking to one person or 10,000 people, be who you are.

Do not substantially change your manner of speaking when in front of a group. Speak con-

versationally just as if you were speaking to one individual, which of course you are, just

multiplied several times over. Some speakers feel that they must change their manner of

speech when they get in front of a group. I don’t. Be the same person you are regardless of

how many people are in your audience. Doing so will allow you to avoid sounding canned and

help you to come off as personable. People will relate much better to you as a result.

And speaking of canned, absolutely never, ever read your speech! Notes are fine, but as

an audience member, I can read your speech myself. I want to see and hear you, your story,

your passion, and your unique presentation. By the way, believing in and being passionate

about your topic will also quell the nerves. If all you plan to do is read your speech, then

save yourself and your audience the stress and just give them a handout of your speech. Be

a Real Live Human Being. Be you!

2. Speak From Your Own Experience and Knowledge. If I were to ask you to talk to me for a

few minutes about your area of expertise, could you do it? Undoubtedly. Would you have to

prepare? Probably not. Oh, you might make a brief outline so you could talk to me in an

organized fashion, but I’m willing to bet that you are familiar enough with what you do that

you could speak like an expert with little preparation. Furthermore, I’ll bet you wouldn’t

feel the least bit nervous, would you? So what is the difference between talking to one

person or 100? You are simply speaking to one individual times 100. The only real difference

is in your mind.

Many new speakers get nervous because they are worried that those in the audience will

think what they have to say is wrong, silly, or stupid. Never forget that you have the same

moral right to express your perspective as any other human being—no more, no less. Your

audience is there to learn and benefit from your experience; otherwise, they wouldn’t be

there. And don’t worry about hecklers; they are a very rare phenomenon. If you should ever

get one, try to answer their question if appropriate. If they continue, tell them that you will

be happy to discuss it privately after you are finished, and then ignore them and continue

with your presentation. Hecklers are aggressive individuals who don’t deserve your mental

attention or energy.

3. Focus on Your Audience, Not on Yourself. Remember, it’s not about you; it’s about bene-

fiting your audience. Whenever you focus on yourself, you will become nervous. When you

focus on how you are benefiting your audience, the nerves are not so bad. As you begin your

presentation, keep telling yourself, “It’s about them, not me.” You may feel some nervous-

ness, but it will quickly fade after a moment or two.

4. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously. The best thing you can ever do in front of a group is

screw up! If you’ve ever experienced screwing up in front of a group, then you know why I

say this. When you make a mistake on stage—be it a lost note or saying something intended

to be funny that falls flat—you simply recover the best you can. Admit what you need to

admit, and then press onward! Once you do, you will find that a huge burden lifts off your

shoulders. It’s almost as if you are saying, “Okay, you all know I screwed up! You all know

I’m human! Now let’s get on with it!” You can then move forward much more relaxed be-

cause you are no longer taking yourself too seriously. It also helps to have some funny come-

back lines for those awkward moments. I actually prep my audience in my opening comments

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by saying, “One very important thing before we get started; I have this delusion that I’m

funny. Will you help me to perpetuate this delusion by laughing at my jokes? Thanks!” This

has the added benefit of breaking the ice right up front.

Speaking in front of groups can be a rewarding experience, especially if you do it enough to get

past the nerves. It is not nearly as bad as most people believe. Of course, it takes courage to get up

in front of people, and your audience knows this. Audiences are generally very forgiving, and they

will automatically credit you with a higher level of authority, knowledge, and intelligence simply

because you are up there speaking.

MULTI-MEDIA PRESENTATIONS

One other area that bears mentioning is the use of Microsoft PowerPoint in presentations. You will

find a variety of opinions on this ranging from favorable to unfavorable. Some speakers even claim

that using PowerPoint at all subjects your presentation to “Death by PowerPoint,” which I find absurd.

This is another area in which balance is important. I almost always use PowerPoint in my presentations

and do so effectively.

Here are some guidelines to help make your PowerPoint presentation effective:

• Keep your slides simple and legible. It is fine to use an attractive background, just make sure

your slides are easy to read. This means using highly contrasting font and background colors.

• In most cases, you should never put paragraphs on slides. If you do, your audience will read

your slide and not listen to you.

• Never put more than about six or eight bullet points on one slide. If you have more than that,

use another slide.

• Use at least a 20 point font, and bigger would be better, such as 28 or 32 points. Your font

needs to be big enough for your audience to read.

• Generally speaking, do not read your slides to your audience. Your audience can read the slides

themselves. Use your slides to support what you are saying. This said, there are times when

you will want to make a point by reading something verbatim, which is fine.

• Use your slides as a mental guide for your presentation much as you would use an outline.

However, be careful of relying on your slides as a crutch. Be aware that sometimes equipment

fails and you should still be able to do your presentation without the aid of PowerPoint. If your

projector fails, you can still take cues from your slides by viewing them on your laptop com-

puter. Of course, your audience won’t be able to see them unless you have a very small group.

If this is the case, turn your laptop around and let your audience see your slides too.

• Face and speak to your audience, not the screen. I usually stand a few feet to the side of my

laptop. This allows me to view the same slide the audience sees without turning around to see

the slide on the screen and thus lose audience contact. You should look at the screen occa-

sionally just to verify everything is working properly.

• Use a remote control to advance your slides, if possible. If you don’t have a remote control,

then use the space bar on your computer—don’t use your mouse. In this case, press the space

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bar quickly and then back away from the computer. In other words, don’t hover over your

computer unless you are teaching a software program that requires you to use the keyboard.

• When and if viewing PowerPoint in the editing mode (not presentation mode) in front of an

audience, blank the projector screen or place a card in front of the projector lens to prevent

your laptop screen from being projected to the audience. This is just good presentation eti-

quette and it prevents your audience from potentially seeing upcoming slides.

The next time you have to give a speech or talk, remember these techniques. They have helped

me and I know they will help you!

PUBLIC SPEAKING MINI-COURSE

For students who have a desire to improve their public speaking abilities, I have purchased the

rights to an introductory mini-course on public speaking which consists of four modules or “sessions”

and is available in PDF, MP3, and video formats on the course page. The audios/videos are of a person

reading the PDF material and are not to be viewed as an example of effective speaking (or narrating).

PLEASE NOTE: The PDFs, audios, and videos all contain the same information. Choose which format

works best for you. However, you must at least open the PDF format so

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